At Interracial Love Magazine, it's no surprise how we strongly support interracial couples. When two people of different backgrounds come together, can openly express their life experiences and passions with one another, despite having to overcome social challenges,...it's truly magical. It's a slap in the face of all we know and feel about racism. Its a delicious defiance to the rest of society's "cultural norms".
If you perform a keyword search in Google for interracial dating, you'll quickly be bombarded with articles encouraging black women to "keep their options open" along with the same regurgitated stats about the increase in interracial marriages between black women and white men. You'll get the same "reheated leftovers" list of Hollywood celebrities who frequently date and marry interracially (Robert Deniro, Halle Berry, David Bowie, etc. - it's not anything new you haven't heard before).
But, the article is still not done there. It's mandatory they mention how the media has softened it's views on black women / white men dating (insert a recent movie title here), and then you got hammered with the final blow... the percentage increase of marriages.
The typical, everyday, common sense type of person would not be surprised that more black women and white men were joining in matrimony.
It's just that the figures are misleading, overstated, and ridiculously blown out of proportion. Kind of like when you look at mutual fund performance. A mutual fund may be down -16% in the last 5 years, but if you stretch the time line, its performance looks better. Over a 20 year period the mutual fund is up 31%. Guess which period of performance the mutual fund family will market to new investors? You get fooled by this type of marketing daily, trust me.
The reality is...and I don't want to discourage my white guys, is that black women are the least likely of a number of different races and ethnicities that would ever consider dating outside of their race.
Thus, challenges and barriers to attaining what you truly desire, actually exist.
On many blogs we frequent at Interracial Love Magazine, we get the sense from the blog's author that they feel pressured to date white.
Some blogs feel that it is almost like "welfare reform." Sort of like a subliminal message for women to gain more economic security by partnering with a white man - as if to alleviate the financial burden of the Government.
So, how can white men overcome a black woman's loyalty to a black man?
You can't. It's that simple. That is not your role to compete with them. If there is a mutual attraction, the black female will succumb to your advances naturally - and you can't force something like this, can you?
In Which Black Women Are OK For White Men To Date?, we tried to remove some of the anxiety that white men felt when approaching a black woman and the frustration that black women had for failing to be approached.
There are cultural differences in how black men and white men interact with black women. Would you agree?
We feel that some of these differences hinder a higher frequency of interracial couples in the United States, due to the inherent "passivity" of white males.
At Interracial Love Magazine, it is our policy to shed black men in the highest regard possible. No article, past or present, strays from this policy.
And you have to respect the fact that people are still more comfortable or more apt to date and marry as close to their "own" as possible. And that interracial dating is not for everybody - particularly black women.
When you discover a black women stating an opinion on black men dating interracially, that has no impact on her desire to do the same thing.
Even black women who are openly supportive to the idea of dating a white male, will never really act on it; or have a bad experience.
So, before you get too hype over the enormous percentages and the rest of the social media marketing of interracial dating, realize that these figures are manipulated to influence you (which is not necessarily a bad thing, is it?) But, it does provide you a false sense of security in regard to misconceived trends, right?
As a white male, you'll never know who these women really are in the blogs and forums, discussing their interest in interracial dating, sex, and relationships. But, it is your job to look.
You've just read another intelligent, controversial, and thought-provoking article on Interracial Love Magazine. We'd love for you to become a subscriber and to become more involved in what we are doing.
We realize that the content and views of this site can be shocking for some readers to comprehend. We are also aware that there is no other site on Earth that does what we do.
We wouldn't have it any other way. And we hope you can appreciate that.
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